I have a preference towards men (romantically and sexually), wouldn't mind being with a woman but likely will think I'm liking them romantically but actually it's just platonic. No sexual attraction towards women
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My preferences for the number of partners change between having no partners, a conditional partnership, one partner, or multiple partners. I can sometimes not be committed to anyone or desire any partners. At other times, I might be in an exclusive relationship with one person. Alternatively, I might engage in a type of polyamorous relationship where all members agree to be equal and only have romantic or sexual relations within the group. I am mainly not committed to anyone, and I have no desire for a partner now or in the future. Overall, I find myself primarily inclined towards monogamous relationships but am open and willing to explore other types of relationships.
Romantic attraction occurs infrequently for me, fading into the background, and may suddenly or slowly return. It's often hard to distinguish between platonic attraction, having brief crushes, or experiencing limited encounters with romantic attraction. My experience of romance changes over time, but it always remains on the radar. I can enjoy romantic activities in media (fanfiction, books, movies, etc.) without feeling a strong desire for romantic relationships. The intensity of my romantic feelings can vary over time. My romantic orientation involves fluctuating attraction, often accompanied by a strong feeling of dread or anxiety. I may feel romantic attraction and desire for relationships, but once I start dating someone, I often lose interest quickly. My romantic orientation is highly fluid, allowing me to fluctuate between various romantic identities without limit. I enjoy romantic concepts and fantasies but feel little to no desire for real-life romantic relationships or activities. I experience romantic attraction mainly towards fictional characters, but I also experience attraction to IRL people, but to a lesser extent. My romantic attraction is infrequent or weak. It swiftly dissipates upon rejection. I'm attracted to all genders, and I'm mainly attracted to men and women. I often find it difficult to discern between platonic and romantic feelings, perceiving them as indistinguishable or occasionally confusing one for the other (I have felt some very strong attraction towards most of my friends, but I couldn't tell what attraction it was). I experience romantic attraction when I know the other person is romantically interested in me first.
The label I use to describe my feelings can change often, but my actual feelings towards others remain consistent. I have a flexible attraction to various genders. My attraction to different genders changes over time, while my attraction stays constant. It fluctuates between feeling asexual, allosexual, or hypersexual (in no specific order and with no schedule) and may also vary in the genders I'm attracted to. My attraction to different genders fluctuates. I'm mostly attracted to men and women, but occasionally feel sexual attraction to non-binary or other gendered individuals. My attraction can change from day to day, depending on factors like who I'm around, my gender identity, my mood, what other people's orientations are, and more. I'm mostly drawn to male, masculine, and masculine non-binary people, sometimes feeling attraction to females or female-aligned individuals. I'm attracted to all genders, but with varying intensity, and the intensity of attraction can change over time. I'm not consistently attracted to all genders; sometimes I feel a sudden, temporary attraction to all genders regardless of gender, but after a short spike, I go back to having a preference. My fluid sexuality is always multisexual, down to asexual. I primarily identify as asexual but occasionally experience sexual attraction, often with little intensity or frequency. I typically don't feel sexual attraction but occasionally experience brief, intense bursts of sexual attraction. I feel repelled by sexual acts or thoughts unless they're initiated by someone else. I have occasional attraction but lack active interest in pursuing relationships. I only feel sexual attraction in my imagination and don't act on it in real life. My sexual orientation fluctuates, and it is accompanied by a strong feeling of dread or anxiety. I experience sexual desires that I fulfill through self-stimulation, recognizing that I don't engage in sexual activities with others despite having a libido. I enjoy sexual content and fantasies and get aroused by them, but I don't desire sexual relationships or actions with other people IRL. I identify with both the multisexual and asexual spectrums simultaneously. My sexual attraction is infrequent or weak and can break off easily. I'm attracted to all genders and have a preference for mostly men and a little bit of a woman. I may feel sexual desires but don't feel sexual attraction to others, feeling disconnected from them.
I'm someone who doesn't experience platonic attraction. But in the very, very, very, very, very small chance that I do want friends and feel platonic attraction, it isn't limited by gender; it influences but doesn't determine who I'm attracted to, regardless of gender.
I only experience sensual attraction after being in another type of relationship first. Sensual attraction for me transcends all genders, mainly because I have to be in some type of relationship first.
I experience aesthetic attraction to all genders while acknowledging that some traits look better on some individuals than others.
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The label Rowan uses to describe his feelings can change often, but his actual feelings towards others remain consistent. He fluctuates between feeling asexual, allosexual, or hypersexual, and he may also vary in the genders he's attracted to. His attraction to different genders changes over time, while his overall attraction remains constant. His orientation, amory, intensity of attraction, and gender are fluctuating and/or fluid. He is mostly attracted to men and women, but occasionally he feels sexual attraction to other genders. He primarily identifies as allosexual but occasionally experiences asexual non-attraction.
Coining this for my friend who mostly helped to define it, also made partially with @Jayden Chip in mind, you don't have to use this if it doesn't fit, but go ahead if it does!
From the Latin 'griseo', meaning 'grey'.
A Griseic individual is someone who experiences all forms of grey- attraction. Hence, they would be grey-sexual, grey-romantic, grey-platonic, grey-aesthetic and grey-sensual.
The flag is made in the format of the grey- flags, but without color. The five-petal flower at the center represents the five kinds of attraction; purple for grey-sexual, green for grey-romantic, yellow for grey-platonic, pink for grey-aesthetic, and orange for grey-sensual. The colors are taken from/inspired by the respective grey- flags.
Please let me know if there is already something like this. I couldn't find anything but just in case.
If someone could help me make a page that would be great :>
*discovers aesthetic and sensual attraction*
Okayokay
So like
Idk about sensual or aesthetic but I'll go over both here
Like
I like when my friends/family lay on me and cuddle and stuff but not in a sexual way
But I don't exactly desire it? Like, me and my one friend will take turns laying on each other, leaning on each other, etc. and I love doing that, but its completely platonic. I like it when my sisters will lean on me or hug me, but again, completely platonically.
My question about aesthetic attraction
Like
I'll be anywhere and see anyone and be like "Dang that person is dressed really well and is very nice-looking" but I just wanna talk to them, maybe get to know them a bit, nothing too bad. But its only for very specific people although it can be for all genders.
So what is dis
I think I'm aroace, but I can't possibly be aroace I still feel attraction. It's just not that strong.
But like… I isolate myself often so I don't know if I feel all types of attraction but I don't go out and meet people so I never experience it. Or if I am aroace or just a-spec in general.
- Rowan (He/They)
Can someone please explain to me the difference between libido and sexual attraction? I tend to have a problem with mixing them up or not understanding what they mean.
I have a problem understanding what 'attraction' means. Does it just mean being drawn to someone to do [___]? So, like, sexual attraction is being drawn to someone to have sex. It has nothing to do with libido. Thus, an asexual and an allosexual can have a libido. Despite only 1 being drawn to have sex with someone.
If it does mean what I think it means, then I don't feel sexual attraction as much as an allosexual person. For fictional characters or celebrities, I feel sexual attraction for them immediately. But when it comes to real-world people, it takes me a while to get to feel sexual attraction for them (I wouldn't say it's demisexual, but it's hard to explain). And when I do feel sexual attraction, it hits hard. I lust after the person, but it goes away very quickly before going back to feeling very little attraction towards them. Would this be a libido or ace spike?
Rowan's kinda all over the place with what he wants in relationships. Sometimes he's like, totally solo—no partners at all. Other times, he's all about that one-on-one vibe. But then, he can also be down for a whole bunch of partners at once. He's mostly into monogamy type relationships, but he's also cool with dipping his toes into polyamory, he's mainly curious about polyamory. He's not those ambiamorous people who are totally cool with both—Rowan's more about monogamy, but he's open to exploring poly stuff when he feels it or when the chance pops up.
Rowan's super chill about his romantic stuff. He's not really into real-life romance stuff, but he's all about those romantic ideas and fantasies. He's all about those fictional crushes too. Sometimes he kinda feels a little something for people IRL, but it's not a big deal or anything, and it doesn't happen a lot, and when he does feel romantic-y for someone IRL it’s weak and fades away very fast. He's into all genders, but it's different depending on the situation. Like, sometimes he's more into someone, but it's not that he's dying to date them or anything. And he's like, not always sure if what he's feeling is just friendship or if it's something more. And he's only really into someone if they're into him first.
Rowan's sexual orientation is superfluid. He can be into all sorts of different genders without any limits. He's into thinking about sex and stuff, but when it comes to actually doing anything, he's kinda meh about it, he's not really into it. Sometimes he feels he's not even really there when he's thinking about it. Also, he's into fictional characters in that way. And he can be attracted to anyone, guys, girls, whatever, but it's not always super strong or anything, and again it’s weak and fades away very fast (would this be aroace???). Even though he might feel attracted, he's not really into the whole dating or hooking up thing. He'd rather just not do that, even if he thinks someone's sexual/romanticly attractive.
Rowan doesn't really get into that whole platonic attraction thing. But when he does happen to feel it which is /very/ rarely, he's cool with all sorts of people, no matter their gender or sex. Like, it kinda matters, but not really. It's more about the vibe they give off or something.
Rowan, he's like, you know, he only starts feeling all mushy and stuff about someone after he's gotten to know them super well, like after already being in a pre-determined relationship, like already being firends, sexual partners, lovers, etc. It's not just about what they look or if they're a boy or a girl or whatever. He's all about those deep connections and feelings, and that's what gets him all fluttery and stuff. His journey just shows how feelings and emotions are way more important than just who someone is on the outside. Like, he doesn’t care about their gender or anything.
Rowan is totally into all kinds of people. But gender still plays a big part in who they're into, though it's not the only thing. They are really folks who have that feminine vibe, whether they're actually girls or not. And they're also into people who have more of a masculine energy, even if they don't identify as guys. Rowan is attracted to all genders and only has a preference of his sexual and romantic attraction. He *does not* have a preference will platonic, sensual, and aesthetic attractions, or any other attraction that isn’t sexual and romantic I guess you could say.
Any idea what all this is?
What exactly does greysexual/romantic mean??? I've been looking at so much queer stuff that all types of attraction are just blurred together, and I can't even remember what gender is anymore. Can you provide examples of experiences or feelings that someone who identifies as greysexual or greyromantic might encounter? Are there specific signs or indicators that can help someone determine if they fall within the greysexual or greyromantic spectrum? I'm just a confused idiot. Please help.
TW: bold letters, caps
So I'm back now. I'm not going to be as active as I was before, but you'll still see me around mainly just commenting on post.
So a lot has changed about me. Skip to the bottom of the post to see a TD;DR which is basically what I tell everyone I identify as.
Chosen Names
Nomifluid — A person's name changes over time.
Jayden
Juniper
Lee
Marley
Gender Identity
Agender — Lack of gender or minimal gender experience, encompassing various descriptors such as genderless, gender-neutral, or neutrally gendered.
Azurgirl — Someone who identifies as a girl or woman but also has a strong masculine aspect to their gender identity or expression.
Demiboy — Someone who feels partially male and partially another gender.
Demigirl — Someone who feels partially female and partially another gender.
Doxigender — One who predominantly identifies as male, partially as female, and to a lesser extent as non-binary.
Endoboy — One's sense of being male or masculine fluctuates alongside other gender identities.
Fluidflux — A gender experience that fluctuates both in identity (from one gender to another or to none) and intensity (from full to partial gender feelings).
Genderfluid — Where one's gender varies over time.
Genderflux — A fluid gender identity that fluctuates in intensity over time.
Gendervoid — Feeling a lack of gender where others typically experience a sense of identity.
Hemiboy — Exactly half male and half another gender.
Hemigirl — Exactly half female and half another gender.
Neogirl — A non-binary gender identity that aligns with femininity but exists outside the traditional gender binary, representing a new or distinct experience of womanhood.
Non-binary — A wide range of gender experiences that do not fit within the traditional binary framework.
Omnigender — Experiencing all genders while recognizing their distinctiveness, potentially involving feeling varying degrees or intensities of gender identities.
Perifluid — Fluidly shifting between various genders, including those associated with masculinity, femininity, neutrality, and genderlessness.
Revealfluid — One's gender fluidity expands as they discover and accept more genders, unable to experience genders they're unaware of, and only fully embracing their genderfluidity.
Sortaboy — Where someone is sort of a boy, but not quite.
Sortagirl — Where someone is sort of a girl, but not quite.
Tergender — Mix of male, female, and non-binary.
Tomboy — A female-aligned individual who expresses themselves in traditionally masculine ways.
Transgender — Inner sense of gender doesn't match the gender they were told they are when they were born.
Transmasculine — Somewhat or entirely masculine.
Woman — A term within the Western gender binary encompassing femininity or womanhood.
Gender Expression/Presentation
Androgynous — The simultaneous embodiment or display of qualities typically associated with both femininity and masculinity.
Expression Fluid/Presentationfluid — An individual's presentation shifts across various gender expressions, including feminine, masculine, androgynous, neutral, xenine, agenrine, outherine, and ineffaline.
Relationship Orientation
Fidelityflux — When someone's preferences for number of partners change between having no partners, conditional partnership, one partner, or multiple partners.
Monoflexible — Primarily inclined towards monogamous relationships but willing to explore polyamory.
Romantic Orientation
Abroromantic — Highly fluid romantic orientation, able to fluctuate between various romantic identities without limit.
Aegoromantic — Individuals who enjoy romantic concepts and fantasies but feel little to no desire for real-life romantic relationships or activities, often experiencing dissociation from their own involvement in such fantasies.
Fictoromantic — Romantic attraction to fictional characters.
Greyromantic — Infrequent or weak romantic attraction.
Idemromantic — Individuals who perceive no significant internal contrast between platonic and romantic emotions, often differentiating relationships as romantic or platonic based on external factors.
Keepromantic — Romantic attraction that swiftly dissipates upon rejection.
Omniromantic — Attraction to all genders, where individual preferences and experiences may influence attraction.
Orchidromantic — Feeling romantic attraction without the desire for or aversion to romantic relationships.
Platoniromantic — Difficulty in discerning between platonic and romantic feelings, often perceiving them as indistinguishable or occasionally confusing one for the other.
Reciproromantic — Experiencing romantic attraction when they know the other person is romantically interested in them first.
Sexual Orientation
Abrosexual — Highly fluid sexual orientation, able to fluctuate between various sexualities without limit.
Aegosexual — Individuals who enjoy sexual concepts and fantasies but feel little to no desire for real-life sexual relationships or activities, often experiencing dissociation from their own involvement in such fantasies.
Fictosexual — Sexual attraction to fictional characters.
Greysexual — Infrequent or weak sexual attraction.
Omnisexual — Attraction to all genders, where individual preferences and experiences may influence attraction.
Orchidsexual — Feeling sexual attraction without the desire for or aversion to sexual relationships, encompassing individuals who find others sexually attractive but prefer not to engage in sexual experiences.
Social Orientation
Aplatonic — Individuals who don't experience platonic attraction.
Omniplatonic — Platonic attraction to individuals of all genders, with gender influencing but not determining their attraction.
Sensual Orientation
Demisensual — Only experiencing attraction after forming a deep emotional connection.
Pansensual — Sensual attraction that encompasses all genders.
Aesthetic Orientation
Omniaesthetic — Aesthetic attraction to all genders while acknowledging that individual preferences may lean towards certain gender traits or preferences.
Attraction Preferences
Minic — People attracted to masculinity, whether it's masculine genders or presentations.
Pronouns
I use the following pronoun sets (listed from most to least favorite):
Faunpronominal — When someone feels comfortable with traditionally masculine and neutral pronouns, possibly using neopronouns too.
Correfluid — Someone whose pronouns always match their current gender identity.
Panpronominal — Embracing all pronouns, including standard sets and neopronouns, expressing active identification with any pronoun while possibly maintaining preferences among them.
Just so you know, I'm cool with all pronouns. My pronouns tend to shift from day to day, just like my gender! So, if you're unsure about what pronouns to use on a particular day, don't hesitate to ask me!
Other Labels
Aemotional — People who don't feel emotional attraction, meaning they don't experience romantic, platonic, or other types of emotional connections, and might engage in those activities without feeling emotions.
Agamous — Choosing not to be in relationships or get married.
Analterous — Not feeling attraction towards others, even though someone might still form close emotional bonds or relationships.
Androgyne — Both masculine and feminine, or somewhere in between.
Ficto-Partnering — Forming relationships with fictional characters.
Freedressing — Wearing clothes without worrying about if they're for boys or girls.
Libidoist — Someone who has a strong desire for sexual activity, regardless of their sexual orientation.
Non-partnering — Someone who doesn't want a big partnership with others.
Omniafluid — Being flexible in how you identify with pronouns, names, and expression, regardless of your gender.
Omniaspec — A-spec for every single type of orientations/attractions.
Omnimspec — People who are attracted to more than one gender in all aspects of their orientations/attractions.
Omnomi — Where one is omni- in all of their orientations/attractions.
Soft Romo — A relationship where there's some romantic feelings or actions, but not as intense as in regular romantic relationships, often happening when one person is romantically interested and the other isn't, or when there are changing levels of attraction or comfort with romantic stuff.
Fluitic — Unsure about their attraction or desires, especially when it keeps changing.
Greyrose — A person that is both greyromantic and greyasexual.
TL;DR
I identify as (SIMPLIFIED): Nomifluid (whatever I sign off as), Doxigender, Perifluid, Androgynous, Fidelityflux, Omniaspec, Omnomi, Greyrose, Minic, and Faunpronominal (or whatever I sign off as).
— Jayden (He/They)
Like for when you can only romantically/sexually/etc like someone if you're dating them
If it's easier you can just give me the sexual counterpart since the prefix would just stay the same and the suffix would change depending on the attraction type
Omniavo: Comes from the Latin words "omnis" meaning "all", and "avo" from "avolare," meaning "to vanish." This identity encompasses being completely a-spec and experiencing little to no attraction across all forms of attraction. It doesn't have to, but it can also include gender and pronouns.
Lavender: Lavender represents the absence of sexual attraction.
Teal: Teal symbolizes the absence of romantic attraction.
Slate Gray: Slate Gray signifies the absence of platonic attraction.
Mauve: Mauve represents the absence of sensual attraction.
Pale Yellow: Pale Yellow symbolizes the overall absence of attraction.
So I am gender fluid, I've been questioning my sexuality. I identify as pansexual right now but I am confused.
I am afab and I am attracted to women and very rarely guys. I also like enbys of any presentation. Can someone help me?
Okay okay
I've been comfortable with the label aromantic for a while, as well as dreadromantic
But for some reason I want a more specific label and I've found a few that are relatable? I think maybe platoniromantic or quoiromantic but I thought I should ask anyway. So basically- and this has happened many times- me confusing strong platonic feelings with romantic feelings. I know what the difference is, but there have been many times where I started questioning whether I'm attracted to just random people? Like, I'll think, Oh, that kid's nice-looking today. And then immediately start panicking and questioning if I like them or not. Is this just dreadromantic at work or something else? This same thing has happened with many of my friends, me thinking they look pretty and then being on-edge for days until I really, REALLY think about it and be like "Wait, Im not actually attracted to them". So is this just me being dreadromantic or is something else in the mix here?
How would someone tell if they’re bisexual/romantic or omnisensual/romantic? I have a friend named Rowan and he asked me a couple of days ago if I could help him figure out his sexuality/romantic orientation, but I'm at a bit of a stump. He said some days he is attracted to ONLY men and women, and other days he’s attracted to ALL GENDERS with a preference.
I tried telling him about abrosexual/romantic, but he wanted a specific label for the genders he’s attracted to. He's very nitpicky about these things.
He said he’s never another other spec than m-spec. He said he doesn't like poly because it says “most but not all genders” and not all genders.
I'm at a loss and I really wanted to help him. I kinda feel bad that I can't. Does anyone know what this might be?
We've looked at terms like pan, but he isn't gender blind. So would that even fit? He said he wants a specific term for the genders he's attracted to. I don't know. I just need help.
Where one can't tell whether they are omnisexual or bisexual, thus identifying as both. It is the alterous attraction where one fluctuates from feeling at the very least attraction to 2 genders, then fluctuating to feeling attraction to all genders, with or without a preference.
why are queer people such jerks!?!?!?!? i have met so many queer people who are just straight-up jackasses. i can't live my own life; love who i love; or even try to change the minds of queerphobes without queer queerphobes coming in and invalidating my advice. ╰(‵□′)╯
it's so annoying, and i seriously hate the lgbt community! no joke! i'm a lesbian and polyamorous, and even i have started to become queerphobic!
scientists have like, totally discovered this adorbs new sexual orientation called 'foodie-sexual'! if you find yourself, like, drooling over burgers and getting all warm and fuzzy about avocado toast, you might just be a precious member of this deliciously diverse community! 🍔🥑💖
step 1: spin around three times like a precious little marshmallow, step 2: point at a totally random, adorable object, step 3: yayyy! congrats, you're now all squishy and fluttery about that object! welcome to the sweetest, fluffiest club ever! uwu 🌈💖
nyaa~! my name is stellarfeline, but chu can call me stellar-chan or stella-chan! i'm aliencatgender, so please use ix/meow/nya/candy pronouns for me, uwu. i'm a polyamorous wittle lesbian, dreamsexual, and animesexual! i hope we can be the bestest of friends! (^///^)