Aegosexuality (previously known as autochorissexuality) is a sexual orientation under the spectrum of asexuality. Like other asexuals, aegosexuals lack the desire to be a participant in sexual activities themselves; however, distinguished by the tendency towards having sexual fantasies at times, despite feeling a disconnect between themselves and a sexual target/object of arousal.
Etymology: aegosexuality - a- (not, without) + ego (self) = aego - without self; therefore literally meaning sexuality without self.
"Autochorissexuality," coined by Dr. Anthony F. Bogaert, was derived from the Greek words auto (self) and choris (separate from), and translates to "sexuality separate from the self." Dr. Bogaert designated autochorissexuality as a form of paraphilia, which prompted the name change due to demeaning and misleading connotations regarding aegosexual individuals.
It is a subset of asexuality defined as: a disconnect between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacks desire to be an actual participant in the sexual activities therein.
Aegosexuals are known to:
- Become aroused by sexual content (at times) without wanting to personally engage in sexual activities.
- Masturbate, but feel neutral or repulsed by the idea of having sex with another person.
- Fantasize about sex (with varying frequency), but envision people other than themselves, and/or view it in third person, as if watching it on TV, instead of imagining it in the first person, through their own eyes.
- Predominantly—or exclusively—fantasize about fictional characters or celebrities in place of people they know personally.
- Identify as asexual, feeling little-to-no sexual attraction to people though enjoy masturbating (with varying frequency), are aroused by sexually explicit content, and/or fantasizing of such.
What It Feels Like
Being aegosexual is akin to experiencing arousal regarding the concept or idea of sexual intercourse, without wanting to engage in sexual acts oneself; like a spectator who enjoys sports, though has no desire to participate in the game itself. For some, it can be disheartening—conceptually, sex may be arousing or exciting to an aegosexual; however, engaging in sexual acts is a potential turn off—both mentally and physically—sometimes even leading to feelings of boredom. Often, taking longer for aegosexuals to realize they fall within this category (or within the asexual spectrum at large) due to perceived conflicts between fantasies and physical desire.