Aromantic is feeling little to no romantic attraction regardless of gender or situation. Aromantic (often shortened to aro) is a romantic orientation defined by a lack of romantic attraction. Romantic attraction is often defined as the desire to be in a romantic relationship and/or do romantic acts with a specific individual. For non-aromantic (alloromantic) individuals, romantic attraction is involuntary and even occurs when someone doesn't know the other individual (though one might not act on it). Aromantic individuals do not have an innate desire to be in a romantic relationship with specific individuals. They might also feel completely or mostly disconnected from the idea of romance.
Flag[]
The origin of the aromantic flag dates back to 2014 when it was created by Tumblr user Cameron. The flag was designed as a symbol for the aromantic community to represent and celebrate their identity. The specific meanings behind the colors and patterns of the flag have not been officially defined, but it is commonly interpreted as follows:
- The green stripe represents aromanticism as a whole.
- The yellow stripe represents the fullness and diversity of the aromantic spectrum.
- The white stripe represents platonic and aesthetic attraction, which are often emphasized in the absence of romantic attraction.
- The grey stripe represents grey-aromantic and demiromantic individuals who may experience limited or occasional romantic attraction.
- The black stripe represents the experience of those who identify as aromantic and asexual, highlighting the overlap between these identities.
Social issues[]
Recognition and visibility[]
Some individuals within the aromantic community express frustration over the lack of recognition and visibility their identity receives, both within broader society and within the LGBTQ+ community. They may feel marginalized or overlooked, leading to discussions about inclusivity and representation.
Relationship expectations[]
Aromantic individuals may encounter challenges in navigating social expectations related to dating, marriage, or forming romantic partnerships. Society often places significance on romantic relationships, which can lead to feelings of isolation or pressure to conform.
Romantic-coded behaviors and experiences[]
Within the community, some debates may revolve around the boundaries of romantic-coded behaviors and experiences for aromantic individuals. Some individuals may question whether engaging in certain activities, such as cuddling or holding hands, implies romantic feelings or if they can be enjoyed platonically.
Aromantic spectrum and gray areas[]
Discussions may arise regarding the boundaries and inclusivity of the aromantic spectrum. Some individuals may identify as gray-aromantic or on the spectrum between aromantic and romantic orientations, leading to discussions about the nuances of attraction and how it is experienced. Some argue that gray-aromantic individuals, as part of the asexual and aromantic spectrum, should be recognized and included within LGBTQ+ communities. Others may hold differing opinions on whether gray-aromanticism aligns with the historical struggles and experiences traditionally associated with the LGBTQ+ community.
Relationship models[]
Aromantic individuals often navigate alternative relationship models and structures that prioritize platonic relationships and connections. Controversies may arise when discussing the societal expectations and norms surrounding romantic relationships and whether alternative models are recognized and respected.
Relationship labels and classifications[]
There can be debates regarding the use of relationship labels and classifications within the aromantic community. Some individuals may prefer using specific terms like "queerplatonic," "alterous," or "squish" to describe their non-romantic relationships, while others may prefer more general terms like "friendship" or "partnership."
Etymology[]
The term "aromantic" combines the prefix "a-" meaning "without" or "lack of" and the word "romantic." The etymology of "romantic" traces back to the Old French word "romant" which referred to a genre of literature characterized by tales of chivalry, adventure, and idealized love. Over time, the term "romantic" evolved to encompass the concept of romantic love and emotional attachment.
The prefix "a-" is commonly used to indicate the absence or negation of a particular trait or quality. In the case of "aromantic," it signifies the lack of romantic attraction or a disinterest in romantic relationships. The term emerged in the late 20th century within the asexual and LGBTQ+ communities as a way to describe individuals who do not experience romantic attraction in the conventional sense.